You want to get her back but you have no idea how to start and you have no idea why she dumped you in the first place? That’s the story of my life. Experience is the best teacher, so I will go ahead and give you my thoughts.
Bear in mind that most women need a better attempt at winning her heart back. Just saying you’re sorry, “I love you,” or “I didn’t mean it” is pretty lame. An average woman wants to see action and a follow through.
First, you cannot get her back by stalking. Give her some breathing space. Take that time to evaluate how you were with her. Were you a good listener? Did you do things she wanted to do? Do you really know her as well as you think you do? Cutting yourself off from her life for a brief moment has other advantages as well. Time apart will make her miss you. So for the first few weeks after the break up, do not communicate with her at all. And avoid all acts of desperation and obsession – these repel women.
Think back and try to remember what she expected you to be. It’s time to make you a better person, not just for her, but mostly for you, too. Do a simple good deed every day. Improve your lifestyle. If you have been a low-life lately, it is high time to progress. Get a better job, find a better place, and hang out with better people. Be the man you have always wanted to be. Start loving yourself. That will make you irresistible to any woman. Getting her back will be so much easier then.
Surely you have mutual friends. Don’t avoid them. Instead hang out with them more and show them how happy you are. Be fun. At some point these friends will ask your ex why she has left such an amazing guy as you. This will make her yearn for you.
Play it cool and be patient. Know that women find men who have low self esteem, who hovers around like a lost puppy, and seem lost without his partner a complete turn-off. To get her back, you have to pretend that you are okay even after a bad break up. Once you get to talking again, be interested in her – what she’s been up to, how her career is going, and talk about anything under the sun that is of interest to her. Women love a good listener.
You are not the only fish in the sea. Women are even more desirable after a break up. So fight for her and be her hero. Show your romantic and passionate side. But take this slow. Woo her like you have never done before. Show her how special she is and make her know that you will do everything in your power to get her back. There might be lots of men falling in line to win her heart. But a history with her gives you an edge. So be there for her whenever she needs you. And subtly remind her of how much you love her still.